No matter how much we love and admire someone, we shouldn’t place anyone on a pedestal. While you can hold a person in high regard, putting them on a pedestal creates too much responsibility for them, and it’s not fair to you or them.
When you place someone on a pedestal, what you are doing is holding this person to a higher standard than you hold for yourselves or even others. Which makes YOU see them as better than YOU.
When you place a person on a pedestal, you tend to only focus on their positive attributes. And this can be a tricky thing because this type of admiration, not just puts too much pressure on one person, but it forces them to act in a certain way without fail, causing them to fall into the illusion of specialness; which cuts off their authentic flow.
When you view someone as perfect and treat them as such this automatically takes the person out of the human experience and places them above ourselves in some lofty, unattainable place. This serves only to make us feel less than; at the same time when the person you admire acts in a contradictory way to the idea that has been projected unto them, we become disillusioned and even angry with them.
This happens a lot with public figures such as spiritual teachers, celebrities, and politicians. We expect them to be the heroes for the rest of us and to me this is insanity.
Are you perfect all the time, in constant alignment?
No matter how many positive attributes or skills a person has, they are still “human” which means they are going to experience contrast just like everyone else and not all areas of their lives will be in perfect alignment.
So how can we expect or demand that this person who we admire or who society and perhaps even themselves have placed on a pedestal, be in perfect alignment at all times and then crucify them when they are not?
The problem isn’t them, it’s us.
Our cultural and society is continuously telling us to look outside of ourselves for relief, for happiness, for the truth, etc… We look for heroes outside ourselves, shifting our responsibility unto them expecting them to live by a higher standard of moral conduct and values then we do. Pop culture is built on the idealization of others, which serves only to fuels our separation of self, to feel the discord and disconnection furthermore.
So how can we ever feel good enough about ourselves, when we are continually giving our power away to others?
The key is to own personal responsibility, love yourself enough to stop placing other people above YOURSELF. This includes intimate relationships and even professionals ones.
Instead, hold those you admire in high regard, see them as an expression of what we are capable of becoming both individually and collectively.
For us to see our own divinity and humanity, we need to be able to relate to one another and see ourselves in one another. But this cannot happen as long as we place others above ourselves, it’s impossible to relate and connect from a space of separation.
In fact, that is why most spiritual teachers are the least perfect of us all. Any great teacher is a student themselves, continually learning things as they move along their own path. It’s a never-ending process. Constantly shifting in and out of different perspectives. Steadily integrating what they are learning in different areas of their lives, to then share the wisdom garnered with others.
Perfection is not the goal in this human experience, and it’s absurd for us to expect that out of anyone or even ourselves.
We are ALL already perfect, the aim of this experience is about growth, expansion, and connection with all that is.