When you find yourself always doing something, in need of endless activity you might be attempting to overcome a sense of failure that you feel within. Although, you might not even be aware of it consciously. Despite all the activities and endless to-do lists that you make for yourself, in the end, you never feel satisfied. And that’s because you’re not aware or willing to look at what’s underneath the need for endless activity.
When you consistently feel overwhelmed it can be a sign of an inability to manage your life well.
Yes, they are seasons where one can be very busy but if your entire life complies of endless activities and a constant feeling of exhaustion. Then you just don’t know how to prioritize correctly, say no or your busyness is an escapism from something within yourself and life that you don’t want to face.
See what we don’t realize is that being busy can make us feel relevant, useful and valuable. It can give us a sense that our life is moving, that we are going somewhere. But in all reality, often we are merely running in place.
Let go of “exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.”
Haven’t you witness people who are always busy?
Whenever you speak with them, they are frazzled going on and on about how busy they are and how they don’t have ‘time’ for anything. They complain about how they don’t feel well, how tired they are, how they’re not sleeping. How they haven’t been able to work-out or take care of themselves because of how busy they are… A year passes by and perhaps another year and this person is still pretty much in the same place. Not much has changed in their life, no major breakthroughs to account for all their busyness and exhaustion.
If you were to take a closer look, busyness is just another addiction we use to avoid those things that make us uncomfortable.
“BEING BUSY IS NOT THE SAME AS BEING PRODUCTIVE,” – TIM FERRISS
How to Combat the Busy Syndrome:
Before you can prioritize in a way that counts you need to figure out the following:
- First, figure out what your unmet needs are?
- It might be that you’re in need of more intimacy, passion or to feel more connected to others. You may need to feel accepted. Or perhaps you need to feel successful, to see and be seen, to know and be known…
- Then, decide what is in important in your life?
- Is it family, is it to have more time, is to have peace of mind, is to be healthier, is to create and be creative?
When you can come face to face with what your unmet needs are and honestly decide what’s important in your life, then can you prioritize for success. You’ll have a more precise map of what you need and where you are going. And it will help you when prioritizing your day and weeks. Otherwise, you are just running in the dark, in place, hoping you’ll get somewhere.
2. Notice how you waste time:
- Many times, we intentionally avoid doing what we know we should be doing. Instead, we fill our time with more to do’s (quantity) but not quality. So notice where you might be wasting time and distracting yourself?
3. Create non-negotiables aligned with what you identified as important in your life.
- If being healthy is important to you, then one of your non-negotiables would be, that, you will always make time to work-out and eat your meals regardless of what your day looks like. In fact, your day will get planned around your non-negotiables.
4. Eliminate the excess from your Life
- Avoid spending your time on activities that are optional unless you genuinely enjoy it. That means don’t waste your free time on that charity or club that doesn’t matter to you or add to your overall life vision. Strive to eliminate as many of the non-meaningful activities from your life as possible to leave room for the meaningful things.
5. Give Yourself Time Limits:
- If you only allow yourself a limited amount of time to work on something, you’ll be forced to do the most important tasks first, and it will help you move through things more efficiently.
6. Practice Performing one task at a time
- Breaking things down into small chunks rather than focus on the whole picture and trying to get everything done simultaneously. Let your mantra become “one step at a time”
7. Keeping your attention focused on the here and now
- Instead of what you think you should be doing or could be doing. Concentrate your energy in the present moment, focusing only on the tasks at hand will reduce anxiety and that feeling of being overwhelmed.
8. Stop Stating How Busy You Are:
- If you challenge yourself not only to notice how many times you tell people how busy you are, but you stop saying it all together. You will be surprised by how things in your life begin to shift- when you are no longer speaking that mantra. I’m so busy… You will stop acting and feeling so busy that you’ll even notice how your interactions with others will change for the better.
Take a moment to pause and examine these questions for yourself.
- Why are you doing what you’re doing?
- Is what your spending time on yielding you the results you desire?
- What is keeping you so busy compared to what you really should and want to be doing?
- Is there a void you’re attempting to fill, is so what is it?
Often, you will find that you have been filling up your time with quantity instead of quality; to avoid what it is that you feel, underneath it all.