I’ve been traveling for two months now and recently spent a week in Barcelona, Spain. I’ve noticed many attractive people in Barcelona both locals and tourist alike. Barcelona was filled with many good looking men and to be honest I surprised myself because usually, I’m not one to notice men too much regarding attractiveness. You know every once in a while I’ll see someone, but in Barcelona, it was a different story. (Jaja) I found myself quite often noticing and taking pleasure in all the attractiveness I saw around me…
Let’s get into my experience of going topless in Barcelona.
So while I was there I ended up meeting this cool girl named Maddie whose originally from Atlanta but is currently working as an au pair in Barcelona for the summer. Maddie and I ended spending Saturday and Sunday at the beach for most of the day, and by far it was one of the best experiences personally for me.
Saturday as we were arriving to the beach, I was speaking to Maddie about going topless and asked if she had done it before? I shared with her how I wanted to truly experience what that was like, that I did it in Croatia for the first time ever thanks to my girl Marina but we were in a private area where there was no one around so it was easy to do it there.
But in a crowded ass beach, to be topless… eh… now that’s the actual experience and where the uncomfortableness lies because it’s not a cultural norm in the U.S. usually when you see people topless they are foreigners. Beleive it or not it’s still a taboo in the US and Brazil alike.
But if you know anything about me you know I love to challenge myself and step into those things in which I fear yet know that will add value to me. And besides, part of traveling should be for one to emerge yourself in the way of life of the places one visits. Otherwise, what’s the point?
Maddie wanted to experience it as well but was unsure if she could do it. We ended up having a nice brunch by the beach then made our way unto the sand. We laid our towels down and contemplated for a few minutes as we looked around to see how many women were topless, all to make ourselves feel okay in the act of going topless. ( Interesting huh, how we humans, are always looking for that confirmation or comfort outside to tell us what’s okay?)
We start to look around and notice a lot of topless women, girls, and kids, pretty cool. We continued to look around and as we did something started to happen, for a moment our insecurities kicked in. Maddie and I are started talking about how small our breasts were or how they aren’t full enough…
We started to compare ourselves to others in hopes to make ourselves feel better or worse. I quickly gained awareness as to what we were both doing. I laughed and said fuck it, I’m going topless. We’re not going to sit here making ourselves feel insecure about the way our breast look or will look to others. I laid on my stomach and I took my top off after a few minutes Maddie became comfortable and off comes her top. Although my top was off I was not actually ‘exposed’ yet since I was laying on my towel. Maddie, on the other hand, the one who was the most hesitant was just sitting there completely exposed, it was great!
I too decide to embrace it all. I sat up, grabbed my phone put on some music and just chilled topless as I sunbathed, jamming to good beats and looking around. At first, it felt weird, here I am so exposed to everyone both men and women all around. But the beautiful thing about the unknown, about being uncomfortable is that sooner rather than later the ‘uncomfortable’ feeling you have becomes comfortable.The beautiful thing about being uncomfortable is that soon the ‘uncomfortable’ feeling you have becomes comfortable. Click To Tweet
For example, I loved feeling the cool rush of air hitting my breasts as the sun heated my body it was the perfect combination. We both felt so comfortable that I ended up walking around topless, I walked to the shoreline and swam in the cold ass water topless (which by the way was so refreshing), and I even had a conversation topless.
I loved it all, it was the most liberating experience ever. I can’t even describe it. I wish I could just give you my feelings in that moment.
But to put a word to the feeling, it was complete freedom; I didn’t think I could feel freer than I already feel.
But I did. I felt liberated, powerful and beautiful and after a while, it started to feel normal, very normal.
I do feel the environment plays a major factor because being ‘topless’ or just nudity as a whole in Europe is the norm, it’s nothing new, so there is no perversion in it.
It’s interesting when I think about it, sex has been a mainstream media topic dating back to 1920s. In the U.S. the mantra is “sex sells” and we live in a culture that is based on image, sex, and money. Yet overall most parts of the world are pretty repressed in what I call our natural sexuality. We use sex and nudity as a way to make money especially the U.S. and still a lot of taboo and unnaturalness surrounds this topic. I’m not saying the U.S. is so repressed because there are many other places in the world that are far more repressed than the U.S.
But I just find it a bit of a paradox how much our culture is derived from the use of ‘selling an image, a product or an idea’ using sex and nudity; especially in our pop culture as the vehicle to sell and sell. Yet at the same time, we’ve created a lot of taboos around the subject that causes shame.
If you think about it, most oppressed countries in terms of sexuality and women as a whole have some of the most low key perversion and violence towards women.
Another example I know many parents who have a hard time talking to kids about sex. (Shit my parents never spoke to me about sex) Most parents don’t allow their kids to run around naked or if they see their child touching themselves they react by saying “don’t do that”…
Think about it, these are all natural thing, but it is in our reactions, in our thinking that we make these things wrong from an early age. Therefore we end up suppressing our true nature hence creating a place for a lot of perversions.
A culture obsessed with sex and nudity yet at the same time shaming it, It’s a pretty vicious cycle. And it’s happening all over the world. Look what a huge problem we have with sex trafficking; how messed up that shit is, how many people have disorders when it comes to sex.
We have to ask ourselves what the fuck, where is this stemming from?
I don’t know…
But it’s the same thing with the analogy of money there are many people who deep down like money, want money but at the same time shame money and make it a bad thing. Therefore they start to create all these unnecessary inner conflicts that manifest in unhealthy ways.
You can’t want something and shame it at the same time because then you make it dirty, bad and I feel this is where a lot of disorders and perversion derives from…You can’t want something and shame it at the same time Click To Tweet
Anyways I went on a tangent here but I guess talking about being topless brought on these thoughts.
In the end, the moral of my storytelling is that I thoroughly enjoyed being topless at the beach it feels so natural to me and I loved it. Now I’m not saying I’m going to run around topless everywhere, but I think the beach act is something I will embrace from now even when and if I end up living back in the states.
Now over to you…
Have you gone topless before? Share with me an experience of you dealing with a taboo?