“THE BEST AND MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS IN THE WORLD CANNOT BE SEEN OR EVEN TOUCHED – THEY MUST BE FELT WITH THE HEART.” – HELEN KELLER
In today’s how to stay beautiful and how to stay young obsessed culture that we live in, every woman desires to stay young and beautiful for a very long period of time, preferably their whole life. There is much research and money being poured into the industry of beauty, with thousands of products and ad images that we are constantly sold on, in order to stay looking young and be more “beautiful”.
In the chase for youth and beauty many women and some men go down the road of surgery to attain these beauty ideals, that we’ve been bombarded with, on a constant basis. Others go on excessive dieting and exercise regime to attain the perfect body, while allowing their mental state to suffer along the way.
Yet have we ever stopped to ask the question, What is beauty? What does beauty really look like in everyday life?
True beauty has nothing to do with physical attributes of a person. Beauty is not a physical thing, it’s an internal thing that radiates from the inside out. It has everything to do with how you feel which determines how you act. But this isn’t the truth we are sold, instead everyday we are lied to with what beauty is.
Why, because there’s no money in the truth, And what might that truth be? The simple yet complex truth is, how we view ourselves is the most important ingredient to what beauty is.
Think about it.
You notice a person’s physical appearance only for a moment, until you get to know them. Sometimes you have found yourself very physically attracted to someone only to get to know them and realize you are no longer attracted to them. Other times, you may have not been physically attracted to someone at first and as you get to know them, you notice certain qualities and traits in them. And without even realizing it, you start to find the person more and more attractive and charming. And then, there are moments when someone walks into the room. He or she may not be the most physically attractive person in the room, but there is just something magnetic about the person, that draws you in, that goes beyond physical-it’s an energy.
If you’ve experienced this, then you know what I am talking about.
Personally, when I started to feel good about myself, when I began to see myself with loving eyes and when I began to appreciate all my qualities, traits and quirks. All the things I had to offer aside from my looks. Which if I’m honest I never noticed my external beauty until I fell in love with my internal beauty, it may sound new aging-but it’s my truth…
I never thought myself to be beautiful growing up nor did I self loath myself, okay maybe sometimes I did. But not because of the way I looked. I self loathed myself at times, because I didn’t like the way I felt inside or how I acted. That made me feel ugly. Whenever I was angry, arguing, feeling depressed, feeling sorry for myself, or had an outburst of rage those times made me feel the ugliest.
But did my actual physical attributes change? No, they were the same but the energy I was emitting sure, wasn’t beautiful. The way I acted wasn’t beautiful. The way I felt wasn’t beautiful.
When you feel beautiful your own self belief and confidence brings out a glow of beauty, that no outer beauty can compete with. But when you feel ugly, your inner beauty will reflect the same idea and project it on to your outer beauty. I know to some, this may be hard to believe when all you have to do is turn on the tv or open a magazine to see flawless skin, long legs, ‘perfect’ waist size, astronomic asses and the list goes on and on…
But do me a favor won’t you?
When you start feeling down about yourself as you look at these images remind yourself of two things.
1. What you are seeing is fake, most of those models and actresses don’t even look like that themselves. It’s all an illusion made possible by a little program called photoshop. No one has flawless smooth skin without any imperfections it’s not possible we are not dolls, we are humans. We are expressive creatures, with expressive faces which only add’s to our charm.
2. Longs legs and size zero waist, just like a big bank account are only preferences, it is not beauty. Don’t confuse preference for beauty.
You’re beautiful if you believe you’re beautiful. You’re attractive if you feel attractive. Everyone only sees you as a projection of what you see when you look into the mirror.
There are times when I’m not feeling great internally maybe I’m self doubting, I’m not pursing the things I’m passionate about or perhaps I’m not being true to myself. And what do you know, it affect’s the way I feel externally. No matter how I dress or how I look on the outside when I don’t feel good internally, I don’t radiate on the outside.
And then there are times when internally I feel great, I’m being true to myself, and I’m honoring my needs. I’d go out in sweats and t-shirt, looking sorta of homeless; only to find many people attracted to me. I never understood that before, I would always say how can they find me attractive, have they not seen how I look right now? What I didn’t realize at the time was that my inner beauty was shining through and it no longer mattered how I was dressed, or whether I had makeup on or not. Those things become irrelevant when you are radiating internally.
How to Stay Beautiful and How to Stay Young
- Allow yourself to be vulnerable, to feel expose. The more you can allow yourself to be vulnerable, the more beauty you radiate.
- Stop obsessing over the small things. If the house isn’t clean don’t allow it to put you in a bad mood. Deal with it, clean it when you can but don’t allow it stress you or upset you.
- Smile often, it is good for your health. It keeps you feeling and looking younger. Just look at little children they are always smiling and laughing.
- They say you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Take a look at who those people are in your life and do they exhibit qualities of beauty?
- Lighten up. Allow your inner child to roam free, from time to time Be driven my passion and purpose instead of obligation
- Try new things. Step outside your comfort zone
- Keep one’s own counsel yet know when to seek support
- Laugh Often. Spend time with people who make you laugh
- Be Diverse. Spend time with people of different age groups and cultures
- Be a good conversationalist. Develop the ability of being able to converse with anyone at any level
- Expose yourself to positive and uplifting movies, music and television programs
- Have less rules about how things should be and learn to go with the flow
- Stop arguing for the sake of arguing. When you argue you never walk away feeling good if anything you feel awful and remember how you feel reflects on the outside.
- Stop trying to change people. You are wasting your energy and wasted energy takes away from your youth and beauty. Always think of children when you think of youth and beauty. How do they feel and act?
- Stop judging others. When you can stop judging others, you will no longer judge yourself and isn’t that beautiful
- Own personal responsibility . This will give you the confidence you need to feel good about yourself
- Spend less time in the mirror and more time inside yourself
Know the less you focus on looking younger and on being beautiful, the more you can actually experience it. The more you focus on it, the faster you will age and the quicker your beauty will wither away. These are just a few ways on how to stay beautiful and how to stay young but really what it all comes down to, is how you feel on the inside. When you are happy with you, when you are being true to yourself; you have discovered what true beauty is.
Most importantly, Be childlike-if you never lose sight of the child within you will never age. I know my child and she lives within me, she comes out often therefore we are both happy and I feel and stay looking younger without even trying.
Now, over to you
What does beauty mean to you and what moments do you feel the most beautiful?