Many of us are so busy trying to move forward with our lives that we often don’t recognize nor value the importance of self-reflection and the impact it can have on our lives. Self reflection is necessary practice if you desire to become the best version of yourself and consciously co create the life of your dreams.
Self reflection creates emotional self awareness it helps you bring light to your deeper unconscious blocks. This process is one the most important things you can do for your inner growth. It is one of the best ways to attain clarity and tune into your Higher Self.
See we learn by experiences and mistakes. But, unless we question ourselves about what our experiences mean and think actively about them, we won’t make any changes. Self-reflection enables you to move from just experiencing, into understanding.
Think about this…
How do you start the process of getting to know another human being?
It usually always requires you to interact with them; which involves you speaking, asking questions and at times observing them. Therefore it’s the same process for yourself.
When I reflect back at my childhood and adolescent years I notice that I spent most of time questioning and seeking. I let my imagination, innocence, intuition, and urgencies to know to question guide me through life. There are many ways to practice self-reflection, but I’ve always used writing as a way to process my thoughts and feelings and by far I feel it’s one of the best methods one can use.
Journaling has helped me understand myself through identifying patterns, habits, and consistent themes that come up in my life and it’s also one of the ways I am able to channel my Higher Self and receive the clarity and wisdom needed at that moment. ⠀
Put the pen to the paper and surrender to it. Write without judgement, let it pour out of you and unto the paper. That is your safe space. Then you can go back and read it as the observer coming from a higher perspective and reflect….
I also spend a lot of time having discussion with myself aloud.
YES, I did say with myself!
It may sound kooky but having a conversation aloud with yourself can be pretty powerful!
So go on; speak to yourself, ask yourself questions, observe you (your thoughts , emotions and actions) and watch how you’ll start gain clarity around who you are and your life at large.
We must reflect on both our successes and our failures. Remember that reflection is not about overthinking or dwelling on the past or negatives. Its about going beyond the surface and into the depth of your core. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The Process of Self Reflection
Make it part of your routine and prioritize your time and create the environment to practice self reflection. Get into the right state of mind. It is important to have all of your attention on the process and not be distracted or interrupted when doing it.
For me the best time to do is at night when everyone is asleep and I have some exclusive time for myself. You need to figure out when the best moment is for you where you are in a relaxed state.
ask the right questions
Questions in general are quite powerful because they focus our attention. But as Tony Robbins says “quality questions create a quality life.” So it’s important that we ask ourselves better quality questions that invite explorations.
What if and How can I type of questions, are very powerful questions to ask, because they are filled with possibilities.What if questions can lead to new discovers and new ways of thinking.
Questions starting with “WHY” are not very effective they tend to get us into victim mentality. Why questions are only useful when you are looking for the reason perhaps a Higher Purpose for something. But once you’ve found a reason then you have to make a shift into a “How” question.
What if and How can I, are more solution oriented and therefore more empowering.
ATTAIN CLARITY THROUGH WRITING
The power in reflecting is to get to the core of something, getting to an “Aha Moment.” That gives you an insight to something you haven’t seen before and that gives you a better perspective on the topic.
This is where the power of writing comes into play helping you achieve those AHA moments that give you new insights and perspective that ultimately can give you a solution.
It can be easy to lose our way, every now and then when we get caught in the motion of doing life yet self-reflection is a tool that not only understand your experiences but helps you notice when you’ve lost sight of who we are and who you are wanting to be.
It as simple as just stopping what you are doing and checking in with yourself.
How I am feeling today?
How can I have more energy?
How can I be a better friend, parent or wife today?
What is my body trying to tell me?
In the end self reflection is tool that creates self awareness but then the magic happens in the doing. Using the knowledge acquired through reflection and putting it to use in your reality.
Now, I’d love to hear from you.
Do you use self reflection as part of your inner growth practice, how has it helped you and what method do you use when you do it?