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Love after Loss…

Hello Outer World!

I’ve been meaning to share this beautiful and inspiring short story with you for the last couple of weeks now but haven’t gotten around to it! But here it is…

A few weeks back I was hanging out with a friend at the W hotel enjoying a glass of wine and good conversation; it was about 11:00pm that night when I spotted this older couple walking in together (they must have been in their mid 70′s ) as they walked in my attention was completely on them. I was amazed by the fact that they would be out this late. They had this energy about them, that was special. The old man opened the door for his woman and reached for her hand as they walked to the outside terrace. They look around to find somewhere to sit but everything was taken. There was a table available next to us yet there were no chairs.

I was sadden by this and I started to look around when I spotted two chairs sporadically scattered around. I then suggested to my friend to grab a chair for them and so we did just that. My friend grabbed one chair, I carried the other and together we brought them two chairs. They were very surprised to see us being so helpful and accommodating and thanked us! ( There was no way, we were going to let them stand around) It was so peculiar to simply see them out together on such a late night and at a spot like the W. It truly was one of the cutest things, I’d ever witnessed.

Very happy they both thanked us and sat down. My friend and I sat back at our table as we commented on how cute the couple was and how in loved they seemed, especially at their age. I was wondering if he was going to order a cocktail. When I look over; indeed he had order one for himself, the couple seemed to enjoy their beverage and conversation. We observed them for while longer, when I made a comment to my friend on how I’d love to just get the courage to go over and talk to them yet I didn’t ( Don’t ask me why…) We continued on with our conversation on other subjects… Close to an hour later the older couple seems to be getting ready to leave, when they come over to where we were.

They thanked us once more for being so kind and thoughtful, making a comment on how the gentleman I was with was a keeper etc… Which was cute, although we are just friends. We both laughed and I then commented on how wonderful it was to meet them & how adorable they are together. We both expressed how much love, we saw between them. When, I decided to ask them how long they have been married and right as the thought crossed my mind to ask them; my spirit told me they weren’t married.

Despite that I proceed to ask anyways, they laughed & said no we aren’t married then they looked at each other giggled and said” What did we say we were going to tell people, that together we’ve been married 84 years or something right” they laughed and the gentleman said that they both had been married to their spouses for 40 something years.

Though both their spouses passed away from the same disease Lou Gehrig’s: (which is a disorder that’s also called amyotrophic lateral sclerosis: amyotrophic means that the muscles have lost their nourishment. When this happens, they become smaller and weaker.Lateral means that the disease affects the sides of the spinal cord, where the nerves that nourish the muscles are located; andsclerosis means that the diseased part of the spinal cord develops hardened or scarred tissue in place of healthy nerves.)

They both met at a support group for Lou Gehrig and found themselves supporting each other in coping with the loss of their spouses and now have been together for two years! They were down here in Atlanta for a wedding. I noticed the pain in the woman eyes, as the man spoke about their deceased spouses, yet I also saw the happiness to have found each other.

I was in awe! How amazing is that ? They were given a second chance at love… After each of them being married (blessed) for forty plus years, to then lose the love of their lives and in the midst of devastation, something new was born. (A new love) That is POWERFUL! That shows me the power of this Human Experience and the range of things we CAN experience. It’s all available to us. Crisis can offer many hidden benefits to those who accept the challenge to transform in the face of devastation. It can give someone the opportunity to shift directions and help them make important changes in their life. It can help them discover their true purpose. It can help them to continue living with love & faith in their heart despite difficult experiences. To find the inner strength that lies within you…

Nothing remains as it was. If you know this, you can
begin again, with pure joy in the uprooting.”
Judith Minty, Letters to My Daughters

“There is life after death, not just for the person who has died, but for the loved ones left-behind who must go on living, and hopefully living in the moment with a greater sense of joy. – Jane Bay

Love & Light,

SF